Ephesians 5:22

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Ephesians 5:22

“Wives be subject to your husbands as to the Lord.”

A note about Christian marriage

There is nothing in scripture anywhere that justifies domestic violence, coercive control, emotional, physical, or spiritual abuse of a wife by a husband, or vice versa. Any marriage marked by these things is outside of God’s definition of marriage. Anyone subject to abuse should consider leaving the relationship until their safety is assured.

When we consider the relationship between a husband and wife, we must remember set the instructions given in Ephesians 5:22-33 are an expansion of the general command to “ be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ..”

Wives and husbands, therefore, are to be a microcosm of the church more generally. Not only are wives to be subject to their husbands, but husbands are to be subject to their wives. That mutual submission one to the other is exactly what love looks like.

This is not a question of who gets the final say, or who looks after the money, or who does the cooking. They are such trivial issues that are not worth worrying about in this context. Each couple will likely make their own decisions on these kinds of f\matters.

To be subject to one another means that a couple will make decisions together, under the Lord. Listening prayer, reading the Word together, honest and open discussion together, these are the tools that build a relationship.

Before wives submit to their husbands, they must first submit to the Lord. This verse should not be taken to mean “ be subject to your husband as if he is the Lord.” Rather it means, “submit to your husband in the same way that you submit to the Lord.”

Wives submit to the Lord because they know that He loves us and wants the best for us. The Christian life is a journey of faith, growing in understanding of the fact that He can be trusted to care for us in every way .

When wives submit to their husband as to Christ, they do so in the expectation that he loves them and cares for them, that he can be trusted to be faithful .

The more that the couple love each other and surrender to each other, the more it is possible for the wife to submit to the husband.

For a wife to be submissive means that she refuses to be in control of the husband. Many women are influenced by the Jezebel spirit, a demon which seeks to undermine and control. Submission is the opposite attitude of control, and it is the key to overcoming the Jezebel spirit.

Whenever a wife finds herself being controlling or manipulative, she should repent and seek the Lord. When we are subjecting ourselves to one another all forms of manipulation, coercion, and control must be avoided.

Key points in this verse:

  • The biblical pattern of marriage requires couples to love one another and surrender their desire for control
  • Wives need to submit to their husbands as they do to the Lord
  • The Jezebel spirit seeks to undermine and control

Reflection on 1 Corinthians 7:1- 11

Scripture

But, because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.

Observation

It is good to abstain from sexual relations, but because of the immorality of the world in which we live, it is better to be married.

In marriage, husband and wife each give other authority over their own body, and so should be ready to meet the needs of their partner.

Spouses should not deprive their partners of sexual relations, unless it is by mutual agreement for the sake of prayer.

Paul wishes everyone was single as he is, but he recognises that people have different gifts. It is better to remain unmarried if you have the self-control necessary. It is better to marry than burn with lust.

Those who are already married should remain so. If they are separated, they should seek to be reconciled.

Application

Paul says here that the ideal for every Christian would be to remain single. However, not everyone has the spiritual gifting to do this, so for these people it is best to marry.

We live in a world where every kind of sexual perversion is tolerated and encouraged. For the world, sex is always good, and no limitation should be placed on it.

For christians, though, our bodies are holy to the Lord. Our sexual desires, like every physical drive, need to be contained and expressed in a way that is holy and pleasing to the Lord

Marriage of the biblical kind – one man and one woman joined together for life – is the holy expression of sexuality. Marriage is given for the protection and growth of the partners, and for the provision of a loving environment for children.

Sex in the strictly biological sense is about the production of babies. It is a perverse feature of human nature that we have made it an end in itself. In this way, we deny our own humanity.

Prayer

Thank you, Lord, for the gifts of sex and marriage. You have designed us for both of these. Please help me to think rightly about them. Amen

The New Heavens and New Earth Church (Shincheonji)

The New Heavens and New Earth Church (Shincheonji)

Last Monday I received a phone call from a pleasant- sounding man who called himself Ivers. He wanted to invite me to an online prayer meeting that is to happen next Monday. He said that the focus of recent prayer meetings has been Afghanistan and Covid . They have had people take part from many denominations. It sounded good to me, so I agreed.

Ivers then asked if I would like to talk to him some more later in the week to get to know each other better. We made an appointment to meet on Zoom. The day of the meeting he texted me to ask if I would be alright if a lady from their outreach team joined the conversation. I agreed.

So on Wednesday we had our Zoom meeting. Both Ivers and Dewi were very personable and friendly people. Dewi took the major part of leading the conversation. A pleasant 45 minutes, but there was something odd about them. Ivers looked like a robot or someone playing a role, and while Dewi was very friendly, she managed to speak in very general terms without actually revealing much about herself. You would describe it as a typical first meeting with people, but there was something not quite right.

I did ask the name of the church that they were a part of, and they told me it was a non-denominational church founded in Korea called New Heavens and New Earth Church.

The New Heavens and New Earth Church, it turns out, is a Korean- based cult and not the mainstream christian church they lead people to believe. It also goes by the name of Shincheonji which is the Korean word for New Heavens and New Earth. The group’s official name is Shincheonji, Church of Jesus, the Temple of the Tabernacle of the Testimony.

The group was founded in 1984 by Lee Man-hee who was previously involved with a Korean cult called the Olive Tree. Lee teaches that he is the one true pastor who is to come at the end times. They do not come out and say that he is Jesus reborn, but it is hinted. He is the only person who can interpret the Bible correctly, and all the prophecies concerning the end times church in Revelation have come true in their church.

Amongst their heretical teachings, they deny the Trinity, they claim that the 144,000 witnesses in Revelation 7:4 are members of the so-called 12 tribes of Shincheonji, that angels are actually human beings, and that Revelation 7:2 “I saw another angel coming up from the East bearing the seal of the Living God” is a prophecy concerning Lee.

In Korea they actively target christians from normal churches by inviting them to Bible Studies where they indoctrinate participants with their unorthodox teaching. When a person joins the group, they are strongly encouraged to break off contact with friends and family members so that the group becomes their sole source of friends.

In Australia, the group targets University students, particularly those from overseas. In the UK, they have a group called Parachristos which has infiltrated Anglican churches and offered its Bible Studies to lure people.

This group shows all the standard heretical beliefs and practices of cults:

  • vague or generic description of their beliefs to those outside the group
  • theology which is outside the standard teaching of christian churches
  • the elevation of the leader as the only true source of authority and teaching
  • the description of the group as the only true church, and its followers as the only ones who will be saved

This all goes to show that christians need to be on their guard against such deceptive groups. The spiritual gift of discernment of spirits has never been more needed,

Reflection on 1 Corinthians 6:12-20

Scripture

You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honour God with your body.

Observation

We can do anything we like, but not everything is good for us. Food was made for the stomach, and the stomach for food, but we must not apply that argument to justify sexual immorality. Our bodies were made to honour the Lord.

Our bodies are a part of Christ. To join my body to a prostitute is to join Christ to them.

We are to flee from sexual sin. Sexual sin is a sin against our own body. My body is a temple of the Holy Spirit. I do not belong to myself, for I have been bought by God at the price of Christ.

Application

When Jesus died on the cross, He was the price for my sin, and the sin of the whole world. We look at that side of the transaction and gladly accept it.

The other side of the transaction is this: having purchased me from sin, God now owns me. I stopped being a slave to sin, and instead became a slave to God.

My body is no longer my own to do as I wish with it. It is now a temple of the Holy Spirit.

My life belongs to Christ. I am being made holy, that is, set apart for God’s purposes.

Although Paul here is talking about sexual sin, the principle applies to all sin. Everything in my life belongs to God, and I am responsible to give everything to him, to glorify the name of the Lord.

Prayer

Thank you, Lord that you have paid the price for my sin. I yield myself to you, giving my body and my mind to you. Amen