Here is my commentary on Ephesians 6:10. I am publishing these once or twice a week, but you can read all of the available articles at our web-site, http://www.new-life.org.au

Ephesians 6:10

“Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the might of his power.”

Paul is now getting ready to conclude his letter. He has covered the topics of the glory of Christ, the cosmic importance of the church and each member of it, the implications of this for our morality and our relationships at home and at work. He now finishes it all with a remainder of the battle in which we are engaged and the source of our strength.

In this verse, Paul uses three different words for the same idea: strength, might, and power. He wants to emphasise this idea that we need strength, and that it comes from the Lord.

Nobody can live the Christian life out of their own resources. Not only is this impossible, the idea of self sufficiency apart from God is the definition of sin. We cannot live for God from this underlying position of sinful pride.

Our strength for spiritual battle does not come from ourselves. Tto think that I can take on satan, or sin, or evil, by myself is a recipe for defeat. The devil is bigger and stronger than any human being .

Our strength must come from the Lord. When Paul tells us to be strong in the Lord, he is telling us that the Lord is where we go to gain our strength.

We strengthen ourselves in the Lord when we seek to know him more. Our delight should be in God’s word, the Bible. It is in the word that we discover the nature of God, His personality, and His desires for our lives in relationship with Him.

The word by itself is not enough. We need to read scripture prayerfully, constantly asking the Holy Spirit to make the written word come alive to us. The Bible must never be read merely for information. When we read it this way, we lose the power of the word.

We become strong in the Lord as we learn to pray. Prayer is not just my words to God, but a two-way conversation. The process of listening prayer in which we both speak and listen to the still small voice of the Holy Spirit is the way to grow to maturity and strength in the Lord.

Power and strength in the Lord come as we learn to obey Him. Paul has given us instructions about how we are to live as Christians in Ephesians and in his other writings. But we must not reduce Christian living to a moral code or series of regulations

To obey the Lord also means being sensitive to the Holy Spirit in other ways. We need to grow in the gifts of the Holy Spirit described in 1 Corinthians 12, allowing the Holy Spirit to manifest Himself through us in words of knowledge, wisdom, faith, miracles, and so on.

Our relationship with the Holy Spirit will result in the grace of character in such areas as love, joy, peace, patience, and so on (Galatians 5:22-23)so that we grow to be more like Christ.

To be strong in the Lord and in the might of his power means that we pursue a relationship with God by every means possible.

Key points in this verse:

• We must become strong in the Lord’s power
• This means that we read God’s word, pray, listen, and obey
• As we seek the gifts and fruit of the Holy Spirit, we will grow in maturity and strength

Here is my commentary on Ephesians 6:9. I am publishing these once or twice a week, but you can read all of the available articles at our web-site, http://www.new-life.org.au

Ephesians 6:9

“And masters do the same to them. Stop threatening them, for you know that both of you have the same Master in heaven, and with him there is no partiality.”

Paul now turns his attention to slave owners. In all of these admonitions, he always balances out his demands so that both parties are clear of the Lord’s expectations of them. His instructions to slave owners are perhaps the most radical of all.

He has just told slaves that they are to obey their masters with fear and trembling, and to serve enthusiastically as to the Lord.

He now tells masters that the same also applies to them. Masters are to direct their slaves as though they are doing it for the Lord.

Slavery was a fact of life in the ancient world. Rather than demanding that masters free their slaves, which might condemn some of them to poverty and even re-enslavement, Paul tells the owners to treat their slaves well. They are to represent Christ in their relationship with their slaves.

He specifically tells them to stop threatening their slaves. This is not the way of Christ. Jesus laid down his life without resisting his captors in anyway. Masters must lay down their rights to make threats of death or violence against their slaves. They must, in fact, become like servants in their attitudes.

Both slaves and masters have the same Master in heaven. The word for master is kurios, the same word as Lord. So Paul says,” Lords you also have the same Lord in heaven.” The one who is lord in his own household is subject to the Lord in heaven, as are his slaves.

This reasoning is very similar to the centurion who tells Jesus, “I am a man under authority. I say to this one go and he goes.” ( Matthew 8:9) All authority comes from our relationship to the ultimate authority of God in heaven.

Because christian masters are subject to the lordship of Christ, they must love their neighbours, even their slaves, as they love themselves.

With God there is no partiality. The word used here means a “respecter of persons.” Paul is saying that the Lord does not distinguish between slave and master; both are held to the same requirements, even though their social standing is different, and one certainly wields more power than the other.

Masters are subject to the same judgement by God as their slaves are. Social position will not determine the outcome, but faithfulness to Christ will .

In our economy, where we no longer have slaves, this suggests that directors and managers should show the same deference to their workers that they expect to receive. Impersonal emails and texts delivered from “on high” may get the job done. Concern and compassion for those doing the work “at the coal face” are more important from God’s perspective.

Key points in this verse:

• Paul presents an radical redefinition of the relationship between slaves and their masters
• Slave owners are to treat their slaves as people for whom Christ died
• Masters must always remember that they also are accountable to the Lord
• Employers and managers have a responsibility before God to care for their workers beyond the requirement of the law.

Here is my commentary on Ephesians 6:7-8. I am publishing these once or twice a week, but you can read all of the available articles at our web-site, http://www.new-life.org.au

Ephesians 6:7-8

“Render service with enthusiasm, as to the Lord, and not to men and women, knowing that whatever good we do, we will receive the same again from the Lord, whether we are slaves or free.”

Paul now repeats his admonition that slaves are to work as if they are working for the Lord, not just men and women. We are all servants, even slaves, of the Lord, and we must see our daily work as being an act of service to him.

It is not easy to do this. We can so easily see things just from a human perspective. The whole of Ephesians is an encouragement to see the bigger picture, and to believe that God is building us into His church. This applies to the lowliest servant as much as it does to the rulers and business people whom the world lauds as leaders and history makers.

Paul tells slaves that they must serve with enthusiasm. Because they are serving the Lord, Christian slaves are to do so with heartiness.

Many people believe that life is basically meaningless, and that people have to find their own meaning. Paul is here saying that this is not true. Our meaning for work and service is found in focusing our hearts on Christ, and therefore working with enthusiasm.

The recent Covid pandemic has reminded us of our fundamental dependence on people who might have gone unnoticed in more normal times. People such as nurses, cleaners, truck drivers, retail workers, and so on, who are not normally considered as elite professionals are suddenly seen to be vital.

So slaves are to see themselves as important in God’s Kingdom because they are serving Him, and are to do so with enthusiasm for that reason.

There is a reward in all of this. Even if we cannot approach our work with enthusiasm in its own right, we have a future hope. Every good deed will be rewarded in eternity.

Even in the most humble of work places – and there is nothing lower in any society than a slave – there are opportunities to show forth the love and kindness of Jesus Christ. In our work, we interact with customers, fellow-workers, supervisors, and so on. How we choose to relate to these people reflects on our relationship with the Lord. A factory, school, office, call centre, can be a mission field in which we decide to act with kindness and generosity knowing that there is a reward for us on the day of judgement.

In Matthew 25: 31-46, Jesus warns us that the compassion that we show to “ the least ones of my brothers and sisters” is service given to Him. This is as true in our place of work as it is anywhere.

This promise applies to slaves in particular, but also to those who are free. In other words, Christ will reward everyone regardless of the earthly status. The promise is given to the slaves and to the overseers, to the employee and to the boss, to the self employed and to the corporate CEO. The Lord is watching our work life for attitudes and actions motivated by the Holy Spirit.

This is not salvation by good works. Paul is writing to Christians here, reminding them that there are rewards in eternity for those who faithfully serve the Lord, to the best of their opportunities, in this life.

Key points in this verse:

• Slaves are to serve their masters with enthusiasm, a positive attitude, because they are serving Jesus .
• Our meaning comes from our relationship with God
• Every work environment provides opportunities to show God’s love and kindness
• There are rewards in heaven for those believers who serve the Lord in their work place, regardless of their status on Earth

Here is my commentary on Ephesians 6:6. I am publishing these once or twice a week, but you can read all of the available articles at our web-site, http://www.new-life.org.au

Ephesians 6:6

“…not only while being watched, and in order to please them, but as slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart.“

The words used by Paul here are interesting. The more literal translation is “ not as in the way of eye- service as man- pleasers.” Some commentators suggest this word eye- service was made up by Paul.

Slaves are instructed not to only work while they are being directly overseen, because they are not merely there to please people.

Giving eye- service suggests that our heart is not in what we are doing. Some work is like this – drudgery with no obvious results or sense of achievement at the end of the week. Some people carry no pride in their work, whether it is work they find interesting or not. They watch the clock, desperate to get out of work and get into what they want to do. For such people, diligent oversight is necessary because all they do is give eye- service.

Paul tells those who are slaves that this is not how it is to be for them. As Christians, they are to work for the Lord, not for their earthly master, and put in their full effort. There should be no discernible change of pace when they are being watched and when they are not being watched.

To be a people pleaser is a terrible trap. It may seem congenial to keep the people around us happy, particularly those who wield some form of power over us. To do this consistently requires compromise and deception .

We might be popular because we can always do what people expect of us or because we voice the right opinions. It is impossible to keep that up if people around us have opposing views, or if the demands of one person compete with the demands of another.

To be a people pleaser means that we must sacrifice our integrity and our sense of what we should be doing with our time and money.

Paul entreats slaves not just to please the person that is over them. They must rather seek to please the Lord. Because the Lord is always with them, they are always under supervision and always accountable.

Every follower of the Lord, regardless of their status in life, is a slave of Christ. Whether you are a CEO of a top corporation or the cleaner, to follow Christ means that you are His slave. Our life is no longer in our own hands but in His.

Paul says elsewhere, “You are not your own for you were bought at a price.” (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)

Therefore, whoever we are as followers of Christ, we are slaves of Christ. Our whole life must be dedicated to serving Him.

This must have been a revolutionary idea for people who were actual slaves. They were unwilling slaves, forced to work for another and without any alternative life opportunities. Paul is saying that they did not work for their earthly master, but for Christ. They might not understand, but their position in life was the will of God, and they were to serve their master as their service to the Lord.

Key points in this verse:

• All of us are to serve from the heart and not give mere eye- service
• Being a people pleaser is a trap which may force us to give up our integrity
• All followers of Jesus are slaves of Christ
• We should see our work as service to the Lord

Here is my commentary on Ephesians 6:5. I am publishing these once or twice a week, but you can read all of the available articles at our web-site, http://www.new-life.org.au

Ephesians 6:5

“Slaves, obey your earthly masters with fear and trembling, in singleness of heart as you obey Christ” ( literally, “as to Christ”).

For those of us who have only lived in an individualistic, free economy, it is hard to put ourselves into the way thinking of a slave society.

Slaves were seen as part of the household, so the instructions in this section about domestic relationships is entirely appropriate.

Slaves were property, and therefore had no legal rights. They could be subject to corporal punishment, tortured, cooled, used sexually, all at the whim of their owner.

Slavery was a big contributor to the prosperity of the Roman Empire. Ephesus was the location of the biggest slave market outside Rome, and so it was quite possible that many of the members of the church there were, in fact, slaves.

Paul and the other apostles did not see themselves as political revolutionaries. They were more interested in the spiritual liberation of all people through the gospel of Jesus Christ than in the overthrow of the system of slavery.

So, rather than demanding that masters free their slaves, or that slaves run away from their masters, Paul applies gospel principles to their current situation.

His first instruction is that slaves should obey their earthly masters. Literally, the phrase is “ Masters according to the flesh.” Although they are slaves according to the flesh, they are also free people according to the spirit. They are in a relationship to their master determined by the ways of the world even though Christ has set them free.

Christian slaves have no choice other than to obey their earthly master. They also have a Master who is higher. Obeying Him will mean submitting to an earthly master .

They are to obey in fear and trembling. The word fear does not necessarily mean terror, but rather the kind of respect that we should have for people of position or rank. Slaves are to respect or honour their master .

The word “ trembling” does suggest fear as we normally think of that word. Slaves must always recognise that their masters have the power of life and death over them.

Christian slaves, therefore, are to obey their masters with both respect and fear, nursing their authority and also their power over them.

Slaves are to have “ singleness of heart” In obeying their masters. They were to be the best slaves that they could be, doing everything with purpose and enthusiasm.

The reason for this singleness of heart was that they were not serving the master according to the flesh, but serving Christ. They were to see their work as being for Christ as much as it was for their owner.

In our society, slavery is mostly eliminated, although there are traces of it everywhere through people smugglers and the sex industry. This tverse, then, does not apply to us directly. But we can make applications in the area of employees working for a wage.

The Christian is not to see their employer as a class enemy or a part of an oppressive system, but as a brother in Christ or a seeker in need of Christ.

Christians do not have a ministry life that is separate from their work- life. There is no sacred versus secular divide. Our work is our ministry.

Therefore, we are to honour and obey our employers unless to do so would be to disobey Christ. We are to work with singleness of heart doing the best that we can to serve our employer.

This is the so-called Protestant work ethic in which people give their best possible service because their work is their vocation, a service to the King.

Key points in this verse:

• In the ancient world, slavery was a big part of the economy
• We are to have singleness of heart in our work
• We are to respect our employers, seeing them as people for him Christ gave His life
• We should give our best possible effort to our employer

Here is my commentary on Ephesians 6:4. I am publishing these once or twice a week, but you can read all of the available articles at our web-site, http://www.new-life.org.au

Ephesians 6:4

“And, fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”

In the New Testament; responsibilities and duties in relationships fall to all parties.

Not only are children required to obey their parents, the parents have an equal responsibility to bring their children up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord .

The word translated as” fathers” in many translations can equally mean simply “parents.”

There is a tendency in many cultures to treat children as objects or possessions, if not as inconveniences. In such situations, children have few, if any of the rights that adults may have. In the christian community, however, children are to be treated as people made in the image of God.

Parents are firstly encouraged to not provoke the children to anger. This simple phrase covers a wide range of possible areas.

Discipline that is seen as unfair or excessive will breed resentment in a child. Children generally have an idea of what is fair behaviour by people in authority. If one child is treated differently from a sibling, or if a parent goes overboard in punishment, anger is going to take root in the heart of the child.

Parents have the capability of inflicting all kinds of abuse in a child – sexual, physical, or emotional. Clearly this is unthinkable behaviour for christian parents who are required to love their children as they love themselves.

Some parents can lash out in rage against their children over the smallest of infractions. This is not discipline but abuse.

There will be times when parents will necessarily or accidentally provoke a child to anger. What is in view here is the routine and regular stirring of conflict.

Parents must empathise with their children. Love is about seeing another person from their own perspectives and not just from our own limited point of view.

Rather than a hostile or dismissive approach which generates anger in their children, parents are to bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

The idea of bringing up a child suggests an active process. We do not ignore our children and expect them to work out the world for themselves. We provide them with food and shelter and meet their other physical and emotional needs. Beyond this, we invest ourselves in their growth towards maturity. We seek out what they need to help them grow.

We bring them up in the discipline of the Lord. We teach them the boundaries of life that are apart of living the christian life. We teach our children to consider other people, how to share, how to pray, how to worship, and so on.

The discipline of the Lord is the process of walking in discipleship to Jesus. This discipling is not optional for parents. Their first and most important ministry is to their children.

The Lord disciplines those whom he loves (Hebrews 12:6), and so parents must discipline their children so that they grow up to love the Lord and love their neighbours.

The instruction of the Lord is about teaching children the Word and the doctrines of the faith. Regular reading of Scripture and family worship times are essential duties for parents. It is not acceptable for parents to contract this out to the church, expecting children’s ministers and Sunday School teachers to fulfil this parental responsibility.

Having performed this responsibility, parents should not expect their children to be guaranteed to follow the Lord in their adult years. We can sow the seeds of the faith in their hearts, but ultimately every person must make the choice for themselves to embrace the gospel.

Key points in this verse:

• Christian parents must discipline their children fairly so as not to provoke them to anger
• We must see children as people who are made in the image of God
• Parents have a responsibility to invest themselves in bringing up the children
• Discipline in the Lord means that we set the right boundaries for our children
• We must instruct our children and teach them the ways of the lord
• Parents must not outsource to the church their own responsibilities

Here is my commentary on Ephesians 6:2-3. I am publishing these once or twice a week, but you can read all of the available articles at our web-site, http://www.new-life.org.au

Ephesians 6:2-3

“Honour your father and mother- this is the first commandment with a promise- “so that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.”

The instruction to obey parents is now backed up by reference to the Ten Commandments. “Honour your father and mother so that it may be well with you, and you may live long on the earth.”

In the New Testament age, the Jews were scattered around the nations, and many did not understand Hebrew. The version of the Old Testament most widely known was the Greek version called the Septuagint. This version was not only translated from Hebrew to Greek, it was adapted a little for the readers who were dispersed and not located only in Israel.

This verse as quoted by Paul is the Septuagint version which replaces “ the land the Lord is giving you” with “ the earth”. From being a promise that originally meant that honouring parents would enable the Hebrew people to live long in Israel, it is now a promise for an extended lifespan regardless of geographic locaiton.

For any nation, orderly and stable family relationships are basic. We know in our own situation that single parent families are generally less stable and less prosperous then families headed by a married couple. For all kinds of reasons, a broken family leads to shorter lifespans.

This is more than a promise to individuals. It is a promise to people groups. Formation of stable families leads to stronger communities, more resilient in the face of natural disaster and conflicts .

Children can understand that if they obey their parents, they can contribute to the stability and prosperity of the family through the blessing of the lord.

There has been some questioning of the statement by Paul that this is the first commandment with a promise. They point to the second commandment regarding idolatry: “ You shall not make for yourself any Idol, whether in the form of anything that is in heaven above, or that is on the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing children for the iniquity of their parents, to the third and fourth generations of those who reject me, but showing steadfast love to the thousandth generation of those who loves me and keep my commandments.” (Exodus 20:4-6)

This commandment is not so much a promise as a statement about the nature of God. He does punish those who commit iniquity and He does bless those who obey him, and both of these consequences go through generations.

Another explanation of this is that the structure of Paul’s sentence allows a translation along the lines of “This is a commandment of priority for you and it has a promise.”

However we interpret the meaning of this verse, it is true that there is a promise for all who honour their parents. God promises that things will go well for us and we will live long in the earth.

One may ask what are the boundaries of the command to obey or honour one’s parents? As was stated in the previous verse, we must not obey our parents at the expense of obeying Christ. However, we can, and should, maintain a disposition of honour even while maintaining our fidelity to the Lord.

Key points in these verses:

• Honouring parents is one of the Ten Commandments that carries a promise
• Stable families lead to longer life and prosperity, as well as to stronger communities

Here is my commentary on Ephesians 6:1. I am publishing these once or twice a week, but you can read all of the available articles at our web-site, http://www.new-life.org.au

Ephesians 6:1

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.”

Paul moves from the mutual submission of husbands and wives to the relationship of parents and their children.

In many parts of the ancient world, children were not regarded as autonomous individuals as they often are in the modern world. They were generally seen as empty vessels which needed to be filled with the family’s ways and values. For example, a father would train a son in his trade in the expectation that the son would grow up to help run the family enterprise, and perhaps take it on himself at some stage. A good child was one who became a copy of his father.

The word used for child here is the Greek word teknon, which can mean a son or daughter of any age. Children have a responsibility to “obey” their parents even when they themselves are adults.

The word translated as “obey” in many English translations actually has the broader sense of paying attention or listening. To obey means that we listen and then follow an instruction.

While young children need to understand the importance of obeying their parents, for those who are adults themselves the emphasis is on listening and paying attention. As adults, we still have obligations to our parents, but this obligation is more aligned with listening to their experience and gaining wisdom from them.

To obey our parents in the Lord means that we should count acts of obedience as a service to the Lord. Little children may not have too many opportunities to serve the Lord, but obeying parents is one such way.

Remembering that this letter is written to a church, it is probable that most children hearing this instruction would be from homes where at least one parent is themselves a follower of Jesus. To obey parents ”in the Lord,” then, means to believe that the parents are acting on behalf of the Lord in their intentions and instructions.

For older children and adults, the expression “in the Lord” is a reminder that all of our decisions have to be weighed up against the requirements of God. Our faithfulness to our family must never lead to sinning against the Lord. Our first loyalty is always to Christ.

Paul concludes this verse with the words ”for this is right.” It is the morally correct thing to obey our parents. We teach our children from a very young age that it is right to obey those in authority. We may later question the rightness of parents and other authorities in some of these decisions. However, our first response should be that it is right to obey.

To question and disregard all the instructions of people in authority leads to lawlessness in which everybody does what they like in the moment. This is contrary to God’s plan for humanity.

Key points in this verse:

• Children of all ages should listen to their parents
• To obey our parents is a way in which we may obey the Lord
• Adults need to obey their parents to the extent that they do not contradict the way of the Lord

Here is my commentary on Ephesians 5:32-33. I am publishing these once or twice a week, but you can read all of the available articles at our web-site, http://www.new-life.org.au

Ephesians 5:32-33

“This is a great mystery, and I am applying it to Christ and the church. Each of you, however, should love his wife as himself, and a wife should respect her husband.”

These verses serve a summary of what has gone before in terms of marital relationships and the mutual submission of husband and wife.

The unity between a man and a wife (“one flesh”) is a great mystery, Paul writes. A mystery is something hidden but now revealed. To understand the relationship of a husband and wife needs the illumination of Christ’s relationship with the Church.

These two things, the human marital relationship and the relationship of Christ to His Body, illuminate and explain each other . It is not surprising that the Church is described as the Bride of Christ (see for example Revelation 19).

Christ is the Head of His church and He exercises that by first dying for it. The headship of a husband with respect to his wife starts with the husband laying his life down, and only then can he exercise leadership in a loving relationship.

When we see the deep love and united vision of a husband and a wife, our eyes are opened to the unity that exists between Christ and the church.

This interplay between the two realities is shown by the way Paul freely changes from one to the other in this entire section.

So Paul concludes with the exhortation for each man to love his wife and for each wife to respect her husband.

Though Paul uses different words – love and respect- the illustration of Christ and the church shows that they are the same idea in practice.

Christ died for his church; but the church dies to Christ in order to be born again. Both husband and wife lay down everything for the other.

Paul again uses the word agape as the love that husbands should have for their wives. This is the love that God shows towards us, his people. It is the unfailing love that gives regardless of the worthiness of the recipient. Husbands must seek to love their wives with the agape love of God.

Wives are to respect their husbands. The word here is phobos . It literally means fear. This is not the terror kind of fear, but the kind of fear with which we are told we should fear God and those in authority over us. It is the respect that is given because of the status of the person.

In any event, to love a wife includes respect. Respect for a husband also involves loving them.

Key points in this verse:

• The unity of husband and wife reflect the love between Christ and His church
• Headship comes from a place of self sacrifice
• The love and respect which husbands and wives are exhorted to show overlap and become the same thing.

Here is my commentary on Ephesians 5:31. I am publishing these once or twice a week, but you can read all of the available articles at our web-site, http://www.new-life.org.au

Ephesians 5:31

“For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”

At last Paul quotes the scripture, Genesis 2:24, that he has been considering all through this discussion about husbands and wives.

This single verse is the most profound sentence describing the reality of God’s plan for marriage in all of the Bible. It is so all-encompassing that Jesus did not need to add to it in his teaching.

Genesis 2:24 comes at the completion of the creation story. The woman was created from a rib taken out of Adam. It is “for this reason” that a man and a woman are joined and become one flesh. Adam and Eve were created as “ one flesh”, and marriage is in a sense a consummation of this origin.

For Christians and Jews alike, marriage is an existential institution. It goes to the heart of what it means to be human.

Marriage, then, is more than a social construct or a convenient way of binding people together for the purpose of rearing children. It is far more than a contract between equal adults and something that can be left at will.

This verse underlies the reluctance of the church to embrace divorce.”Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” (Mark 10:9). If a man and a woman have been joined by God as one flesh, than any divorce is a judgement that God was wrong.

The same verse speaks against adultery and the plethora of sexual sins humans have imagined. To commit adultery is to sin against one’s own spouse and therefore one’s own flesh, as well as those of the other party. In Genesis 1, creation is described as separating things that should not be mixed, but adultery is seen as a destructive force that mixes together bonds and people that should not be mixed.

Marriage in the Scriptures is always about one man and one woman. Where polygamy is practised, it is seen as destructive because it runs against the “one flesh” narrative.

Similarly, same sex “marriage” is not just an abomination, but a contradiction. A man and a woman can become one flesh, but two men or two women cannot. Therefore, to call such a relationship a marriage runs against God’s intention.

To speak of a man and a woman as being “one flesh” is not linked only to the sexual relationship or even just to the wider sense of physical intimacy that couples enjoy. To be “ one flesh” means to share the same goals, vision, and mission in life. While they may have divergent interests and abilities, they will submit their life ambitions to the Lord and to one another, allowing the Holy Spirit to lead their joint enterprise. A husband and wife should see themselves as a team called into existence by God for a purpose that is greater than their individual purposes.

An example of this might be a nurse and engineer who see as a couple mission opportunities that complement and support one another. A wife with a strong prophetic ministry might empower a husband who is pastoral, and vice versa.

For a couple to be one flesh they must first leave their father and mother. While our relationships and obligations to parents remain after we marry, we must never allow allegiances to our parents get in the way of joining to our spouse. We must leave in order to cleave, to quote from an older translation of this verse.

Parents also must allow their children to leave, letting go of their emotional ties. There is no surer way to undermine a marriage then for parents to relentlessly intervene.

Key points in this verse:

• Marriage is an expression of the original creation of Adam and eve
• Divorce is a tearing apart of the single body formed in marriage
• Adultery and other sexual sins betray our own bodies as well as those of others
• Same sex “marriage” is a contradiction in terms
• Children must leave her parents in order to be joined to their spouse