Forgiving Your Enemy

On August 17th the Channel 7 program “Spotlight” screened a feature on a most remarkable man Danny Abdallah from Sydney. You might remember the terrible incident from February 2020, when Abdallah’s three children, Antony (13), Angelina (12), and Sienna (8), along with their cousin Veronique Sakr (11), were killed when an out of control vehicle ran onto the footpath. The driver, Samuel William Davidson, 35, was three times over the legal alcohol limit and on drugs.

Shortly after this tragic crash, Danny and his wife Leila went to the media and publicly offered their forgiveness to Davidson.

In the “Spotlight” program, Danny and Davidson met together and talked about their experience. While the Abdallah’s were committed christians at the time of the tragedy, Davidson has converted since being in prison.

As a parent I can think of no greater loss than to have your young children killed so senselessly.

To forgive the perpetrator of such severe suffering seems almost saintly or superhuman.

Jesus commands us not only to forgive but to love our enemies. “But I say to you who hear, love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.” (Luke 6:27-28).

In an age where there is so much anger, vengeance and desire to punish others, forgiveness as a way of life seems odd, even impossible. In human terms it is very hard to forgive our enemies. But as the Abdallah family have shown us, Jesus gives us grace so that we can love those who hurt us.

Maybe you have hurt that you need to let go of.

It might seem too much for you to let the hurt go and forgive what was done to you. Ask Jesus to give you the power and the desire to forgive.

Forgiveness Is a Choice

Just on a year ago, the nation was outraged when four young children were killed in an instant as they were riding their bikes to a local shop to buy ice creams. Antony, Angelina and Sienna Abdallah together with their cousin Veronique Sakr. were killed on February 1, 2020, when a drunk driver crashed into their bikes.

Outrage turned to amazement as the parents of these children, devout christians, expressed forgiveness to the driver in the midst of their devastating loss. The Abdallah family have consistently modelled a way of grieving without giving in to anger or bitterness.

“After the kids’ incident happened, and the media approached me and they mentioned the driver, I just mentioned that in my heart I forgive him but I want the court to be fair,” remembered Leila last week.

Jesus told a story about a servant who owed his master millions of dollars but could not repay it. When the boss threatened to sell him, his possessions and his family, he pleaded with his boss for mercy and more time to find the money. The boss relented and the debtor went away rejoicing. Then he came upon a man who owed him a few dollars and he demanded the man pay him there and then. The boss was outraged when heard of this, and threw the first man into prison.

Jesus said this is how it is with us. God has forgiven us so much, yet we can be prone to holding a grudge against others over little things.

The Abdallahs have started a national day called I4give Day to encourage all of us to forgive. To be celebrated on the anniversary of the children’s death, the day will encourage us all to let go of the offences that spoil our relationships.

Just imagine how our lives, our families, our communities, even our nation would be changed if we could learn to make forgiveness our first reflex when we are hurt.

You don’t have to wait until next year to start forgiving others or to receive forgiveness from God. Make a start today!

Practising What You Preach

You hear a lot about so-called hypocritical christians. Many people, including pastors such as me, fall short of what Jesus teaches us about love, holiness and forgiveness. But then you read an article like this and you know this is a man of genuine faith in God. He will have a lot of emotions of grief to walk through but he has made a good start in handling tragedy in God’s way.

From the ABC:

Father embraces driver accused of hitting and killing his son on Christmas Day

Adrian Murray embraced by Karl SissonPHOTO: Pastor Karl Sisson (L) and Adrian Murray (R) met at a prayer service on Wednesday. (Supplied: Peter Field)

The father of a boy killed after he was hit by a car on Christmas Day has embraced the man charged over his death, and extended him an offer of forgiveness.

Josiah Sisson, 9, died in hospital on Tuesday from horrific injuries sustained in the crash, which happened on Sunday evening when he was out in Springwood, south of Brisbane, looking at Christmas lights with his friends.

Police said the accused driver, Adrian Murray, took a corner too quickly and lost control of his car, hitting Josiah.

The out-of-control sedan then crashed into a house, causing substantial damage to the right-hand side of it.

Josiah Sisson

Murray, 24, was charged yesterday with one count each of dangerous operation of a vehicle causing death whilst adversely affected by an intoxicating substance and driving a motor vehicle whilst under the influence.

The night before being charged he met with the boy’s parents, pastor Karl Sisson and Donna Sisson, at a prayer service after being invited to attend.

Photos of Pastor Sisson embracing Murray were today released by family friend Peter Field, who is also a pastor.

He said they were taken by a church member.

“To be honest I found them [the photos] confronting and challenging to me personally,” he said.

“The driver saw Pastor Karl Sisson, he turned around and saw him and actually just collapsed into his arms in a complete emotional breakdown.

“We all like to talk about philosophical things but when you really are faced with that in reality, I think it is extremely powerful and extremely challenging.

“This has definitely been a test of what we preach and what we believe.”

Pastor Field said while Josiah’s parents had extended an offer of forgiveness, they were still struggling with their son’s loss.

“Rollercoaster would be the correct answer, especially the poor boy’s mother; it’ll be a long time working this through,” he said.

“I did spend some time with them yesterday and they were a little better spirited but I think by last night they crashed again and this is going to take some time.”

Josiah’s funeral will be held next week at the Potter’s House Church in Strathpine on Brisbane’s northside.

Murray will appeared in court on February 14.

 

Forgiveness in Charleston

The way of Jesus can be very difficult to follow at times, but when we dare to walk the hardest path the world takes notice.

Notice that in Charleston there have been no race riots, just prayer vigils. 

Alan Bevere writes:

 

The Way of Jesus vs. The Way of the Zealot (Allan Bevere)

 

Last Friday, the world witnessed the way of Jesus Christ in Charleston, South Carolina. The family members of the victims in the horrific shooting at an historic AME Church in Charleston, SC spoke to the racist young man that perpetrated the crime of killing nine people during a Bible study. Their words were nothing less than moving; and to a world that so often believes violence is the answer to violence, they were almost shocking.
 
Those who spoke to Dylann Roof did not speak in anger telling them they hoped he would burn in hell for his crimes. Instead they spoke through tears of grief and pain, not only telling this young racist how he had devastated their lives, but they did something that their faith demanded they do– they forgave him.
 
A daughter of one of the victims said, “I will never be able to hold her again. But I forgive you and have mercy on your soul,” she said. “It hurts me, it hurts a lot of people, but God forgive you and I forgive you.”
 
A sister of one of the pastor’s killed stated, “We have no room for hate. We have to forgive. I pray God on your soul. And I also thank God that I won’t be around when your judgment day comes with him.”
 
The way of Christ was seen in those moments on Friday through his grieving disciples. Anyone remotely familiar with the Gospels could hear in their words the voice of Jesus on the cross– “Father, forgive them. They don’t know what they are doing.” Those moments on Friday were holy moments, when the way of the cross was demonstrated to be a real and viable way for the followers of Jesus to live. Many, including Christians, have expressed shock in the midst of their admiration, that forgiveness was the subject of their words to Roof, and not words of hatred. Most people wouldn’t have blamed them if words of hatred were expressed. There is something sad about the fact that even Christians seem more accustomed to responding in hate than with love and forgiveness. I suppose that is because we have far more of the former and too little of the latter.
 
We Christians like to talk a good line about how important the Bible is to us. Many of us tout the fact that it is our central and final authority. But it seems to me that all too often we spend more time talking about the authority of Scripture than actually seeking to live it in our lives. We have reduced the Christian moral life to just being nice and decent. Our morals are more reflective of our culture than the Bible we claim to cherish, as several Pew studies have shown. We know what the Bible says about forgiveness, but how many of us really take that radical forgiveness and put it into practice in the way those family members did on Friday? How many of us Christians were focused more on revenge and hoping this twisted young man gets the death penalty, than even imagining that forgiveness is possible? What we witnessed last Friday was the followers of Jesus taking the Bible so seriously, that they had the strength and the courage to put its words into practice.
 
The Wall Street Journal pundit, Peggy Noonan has written a fine editorial on this, but I take great exception to one thing she wrote– “What a country that makes such people. Do you ever despair about America? If they are America we are going to be just fine.”
 
I do not doubt that there are good and noble things about America and its values, but it wasn’t America that made these people; it was Jesus Christ and the transforming power of the Holy Spirit. What we witnessed on Friday was not American, it was Christian, plain and simple. They embraced the way of Jesus Christ in all of its difficulty and did what seems so counter-intuitive to the way things work in the world and in America. They opted for forgiveness instead of revenge.
 
What makes their actions last Friday so powerful is that even Christians in America do not think in this way. As I said, we say how much the Bible means to us, but then we find ways to opt out of its demanding ethic. In the Sermon on the Mount Jesus tells us to turn the other cheek, to go two miles with the Roman soldier carrying his equipment instead of the one that Roman law allowed. Such demands make us uncomfortable, and since not even Jesus’ followers can imagine how that might work in the ways of the world and in America, we water it down, we treat his words as metaphorical, or we put such restrictions on it, that turning the other cheek amounts to nothing more than not responding when someone insults us verbally. We take the punch out of such words making them easy to follow, which means we don’t have to take them seriously either. Thus, actions like we witnessed on Friday are a surprise, even to most followers of Jesus. Noonan writes,

As I watched I felt I was witnessing something miraculous. I think I did. It was people looking into the eyes of evil, into the eyes of the sick and ignorant shooter who’d blasted a hole in their families, and explaining to him with the utmost forbearance that there is a better way.

But there are those who disagree that this is a better way.

The better way– the answer to what happened in that church in Charleston– as some Christians have stated, is not to for Christians to offer the way of Christ– the way of hospitality and forgiveness, but instead the way of the Zealot– let’s arm the pastors. Instead of treating strangers who come into our midst as friends, let’s assume that first and foremost they are suspects to be watched. After all, the way of Christ results in the cross, while the way of the Zealot, fighting violence with violence, is the only thing that is effective in the ways of the world. Such zealotry is not the way of Christ, but all too often it seems to be the way of America, and Christians have unwittingly accepted that way and baptized it.
 
And until Christians take seriously the Scriptures they claim to cherish, radical forgiveness will always be be the exception and not the rule… because the way of the Zealot is easier to embrace than the way of Jesus Christ.
It would be good for us to remember that the way of Christ continues to this day; the way of the Zealot ended violently and in defeat in 70 A.D. in Jerusalem. Apparently, the latter turned out not to be the better way.